There's A Reason For Everything / Christine Lawrence Dear Jo-Anne,
I just wanted to let you you know that you have been an inspirtation to both myself and the rest of the survivors at the support group. To put it in your brother Tom's words, you have been a "valuable tool" in my surviving Lawrence's death. Like I've said to you before, to see you so young and beautiful it helps us all to know that it can happen to anyone, no matter how much you love them. If our loved ones could only see themselves through our eyes there would be nothing that they couldn't do! I just wish they could have loved themselves as much as we loved them.
Ryan, unfortunately we never met but it is because of you that I met Jo-Anne and that I am surviving my fiance' Lawrence's suicide. In life you helped people and now even in death you are doing the same. I thank you.
Ryan in High School / Michelle Ryan -. Krzykalski (Friend in High School )
I only found out today from a high school friend that Ryan pass away.
The 1986-1987 picture is the Ryan I befiefly knew when he first moved to Bayonne.
He was a great guy.
Thinking of you both / Ann Atkinson (Friend from Solos ) Jo-Anne you and Ryan were such a beautiful couple. I know you miss him. HUGS Ann from Solos Bob 3/31/51-8/15/02
i miss you<3 / Morgan Mcgee (niece of ryan )
uncle ryan,
life is very difficult without you. i miss you so much, nobody has an idea at all. all of my good friends tell me that your still with me, and that makes me happy. i really wishh you were like here heree. you were always that one person i could count on being here for me when i was down or needed help with somethingg. you always gave the best advice. you made my aunt the happiest person in the world and i thank you so much for that, because having her happy means the world to me. i always looked forward to seeing you because whenever i saw you i got one of you amazing hugs. being in your arms i felt safe & secure and i felt like somebody really did care. i remember when you gave my my nikname &+ the first day we met, i knew you were the one[= and i had no problem accepting you<3 finding out you passed away absolutly tor me apart, when my dad told me i sat there and thought no hes still here, because i never thought id have to say goodbye to somebody i grew so close to in such a short amount of time, i had so much love for you &+ i still do. its going to be 2 years and i still wont accept that fact that your not here, only because im not ready to let go, i never will i promise<3 you are still here in my heartt. your friends, my family, myself and my aunt miss you very much. i love you with all my heart uncle ryan<3[= nobody will take your placee, and thank you for helping me become the person i am today<3[[= yourr my hero.*
My thoughts / Alisia Lane (none) I came across this site, and was so moved by the love you have for Ryan. The pictures of the both of you have such a glow to them. I have never met either of you, but my life has been touched by just reading your thoughts. You are a beautiful strong woman, and I am amazed at your strength. God Bless
I am so sorry .... / Karen Scerbo (worked with him ) I heard about Ryan's passing on channel 62 news last evening (10-14-07). The segment was about Cop to Cop which I think is a wonderful organization. Coming from a family of law enforcement, and working in the Prosecutor's Office with Ryan, I know the stress that they encounter. I had left SAVA in 8-2002 and I can't believe none of my former co-workers picked up the phone to tell me. I worked with Ryan for two years, and during that time, he became one of my favorites. I apologize that I could not send my condolences in person, sooner, but please know you and Ryan will always be in my thoughts and my prayers. Karen Scerbo, Toms River N.J.
I pray and keep Ryan's Memory Alive / Tina T. (Did not know Ryan ) I did not know Ryan 's family or the ordeal they have to life with. I am deeply full of understanding and patience. You have all suffered a major loss. I understand this pain.
If you feel a need to talk, please remember my e-mal
remembering your smile.... / Denise McGee (sister in-law ) Ryan, Words cannot describe how much you are thought of and remembered! Your smile will never be forgotten, your kind words to people & friendship. You always knew how to make me laugh & feel good even when you were teasing. "We're gonna need a bigger boat Ry" and boy, did my boat get big! Your little nephew remembers your voice, talking to me. He knows how special you will always be!! My family still talks about what a great guy you were and how happy they were to have known you. Always remember the impact you've had in peoples lives & will continue to have in your memory. You are truly missed & always loved! Joanne was so lucky to have been loved by you & have you in her life! Smile down on her to keep her strong!!
Saddened/ Stacey Griggs (Acquaintance)
I came to know Ryan a few years ago in one of his darker periods. We only were friends for a short time. Ryan seemed to be able to overcome and conquer so many difficulties in life. Seemed whatever did not kill him made him a better person and stronger. I miss him terribly but take comfort knowing he is at peace and in a place of comfort.
Some people come into our lives and quickly go Some people move our souls to dance. They awaken us to a new understanding with the passing whisper of their wisdom Some peole make the sky more beautiful to gaze upon They stay in our lives for a while and leave footprints on our hearts and we are never, ever the same.
This Lil Buddy misses ya Ryan.
Thinking about Ryan, Jo-Anne & family / Lacey Wife Of Angel Douglas Kielty (none) I am hoping that all is as well as can be. I just wanted you to know that you, your Jo-Anne and family are in my thoughts and prayers. Ryan keep them strong through there struggles and hard times. Shine down on your Jo-Anne and show her some love.
I have been to your site before, but I am drown back for some reason. Maybe it's because my heart goes out to Jo-Anne and I may know what she is going through. This is not an easy thing to go through and I hope that Jo-Anne has all the support from family and friends. She needs all of them to get through this.
Unfortuently I have had to go through the loss of my husband without the support of his family cause they are looking to blame someone and be mad at someone and unfortuently they picked me cause I was his wife. It really hurts knowing that they blame me cause there was nothing that I could do and I know that is not what Doug my husband would want them to do. He wouldn't want them to blame me and he would want me to be apart of his family still. I forgive them each day for how they have treated me since my husbands been gone, it is hard to forgive them, but I understand that they are hurting and looking for a way to cope with things easier and unfortuently they think this is the way. I will give them time and maybe someday they will come to reality. Let's just say I couldn't of gotten through it without my close friends and my family.
It is so hard to loose that soulmate, someone very close to your heart and that you love so much. My husband has been gone for over 7 months and it is a struggle everyday and the hardest thing that I have ever had to go through in my life, that I thought would never happen to me. I know my husband is here for me guiding my way through my days and I am sure Ryan is guiding your way as well Jo-Anne.
I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers and pray that you are doing well. GOD BLESS
My Heart is Saddened / Lorraine Masi (Ryan and my son, Christopher, were high school friends ) I knew the young teenage Ryan....the troubled teenage Ryan....who came to live with us for awhile. We loved him like a son and always hoped that he would one day find the happiness which he so richly deserved. From the pictures on this beautiful website, it looks like he did....if only for a short while. He was a loving, wonderful young man....and we will never forget him. Our condolences to all who were a part of his life, especially his beautiful fiance'.
Why he was special to me / Tom Cassidy (future brother in-law ) I thought about Ryan today like some other days and wonder why? I never met him but heard about from my children Michael and Jessica. when i went to his memorial service i learned everything about him. which for me was too late. I never got the honor but for me he was a very special person that everybody loved including me, i know my sister was happy and thats what she deserved. I am sorry that he had to end this way but some day we will meet and talk about it. I feel left out never getting the pleasure of meeting him. Jo-anne hang in there you will be a valuable tool in other peoples life. Rest in Peace Ryan.
Sadly missed and Thought of Often / Rob Till, Jr. (Co-Worker/ Friend )
To The Family and Friends of Ryan,
I think of Ryan daily and pray for his family and loved ones. Ryan touched many lives and will never be forgotten. His smile and his laugh echo the halls and are trully missed. His manorisms, words for daily occurances, his big brother attitude and just his sarcastic personality make me miss him often. He touched many hearts and souls. WE ALL MISS HIM!
We were touched by this beautiful tribute / Rose Allen (none) We send our deepest sympathy to Ryan's loved ones. We saw your memorial in the Home News Tribune and were very touched by it. He must have been very special to have left behind so many wonderful memories. God bless all of you.
Have a Merry Christmas Joanne / Judy MacLellan (None) Joanne,
I came across this web site not to long ago and it is so evident how much love you have for Ryan. I just want to wish you a Merry Christmas and hope that you can have a great Christmas without the physical being around but know that he is here and you have held a great tribute to his life.
God Bless You Peace and Love Be with you also Jude
former employee of the Hudson County Prosecutor's Office / Carroll Price (none) I worked 26 years as senior detective, retired in 1993 ,now living in Venice Fla, I did not know Ryan, from his album he looks healthy and happy, he has a nice smile, and it appears to have a charming personality, I'm really sorry for your loss. I had a similar experience with the office, I would like to trade notes you if I can. You have my e-mail address, I would like to hear from you. I wish you well and God Bless. My phone number in 941=496-7590 my cell number 941=400-2696
This was our vow to each other, my baby!!!!! I Miss you!!!! 143 / Jo-Anne (Fiance'/Best Friend )
SOULFUL RELATIONSHIP by Reverend Ronald McFadden
An African proverb states, "Before you get married, keep both eyes open, and after you marry, close one eye." Before you get involved and make a commitment to someone, don't let lust, desperation, immaturity, ignorance, pressure from others or a low-self esteem make you blind to warning signs. Keep your eyes open, and don't fool yourself that you can change someone or that what you see as faults aren't really that important. Once you decide to commit to someone, over time their flaws, vulnerability's, pet peeves, and differences will become more obvious. If you love your mate and want the relationship to grow and evolve, you've got to learn how to close one eye and not let every little thing bother you. You and your mate have many different expectations, emotional needs, values, dreams, weaknesses, and strengths. You are two unique individual children of God who have decided to share a life together. Neither one of you are perfect, but are you perfect for each other? Do you bring out the best in each other? Do you compliment and compromise with each other, or do you compete, compare, and control? What do you bring to the relationship? Do you bring past relationships, past hurt, past mistrust, past pain. You can't take someone to the altar to alter him or her. You can't make someone love you or make someone stay. If you develop self-esteem, spiritual discernment, and "a life," you won't find yourself making someone else responsible for your happiness or responsible for your pain. Manipulation, control, jealousy, neediness, and selfishness are not the ingredients of a thriving, healthy, loving and lasting relationship. Seeking status, sex, wealth and security are the wrong reasons to be in a relationship. What keeps a relationship strong? Communication, Intimacy, Trust, A sense of humor, sharing household tasks, some getaway time without business or children. daily exchanges (a meal, shared activity, a hug, a call, a touch, a note). Leave a nice message on their voicemail or send a nice email. Sharing common goals and interests. Growth is important. Grow together, not away from each other, giving each other space to grow without feeling insecure. Allow your mate to have outside interest. You can't always be together. Give each other a sense of belonging and assurances of. Don't try to control one another. Learn each other's family situation. Respect his or her parents regardless. Don't put pressure on each other for material goods. Remember, for Richer or for Poorer. If these qualities are missing, the relationship will erode as resentment, withdrawal, abuse, neglect, dishonesty, and pain replace the passion. "Nurture your mind with great thoughts, for you will never go any higher than you think."
Peace to you / Melanie Martinez (SOLOS friend of Jo-Anne ) Jo-Anne,
My heart goes out to you. I can see the love you shared and know it will sustain you through tough times.
Melanie
To Jo-Anne / Dani (Peterson) Hall My heart goes out to you during this most difficult time. But know, Ryan will forever remain that light in your eyes, and smile in your heart. ~Dani (James & Eric's cousin)
To JoAnne / Dorothyann
Native American Prayer I give you this one thought to keep - I am with you still - I do not sleep. I am a thousand winds that blow, I am the diamond glints on snow, I am the sunlight on ripened grain, I am the gentle autumn rain. When you awaken in the morning's hush, I am the sweet uplifting rush, of quiet birds in circled flight. I am the soft stars that shine at night. Do not think of me as gone - I am with you still in each new dawn.
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